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a tangle of mysterious prejudices

It is here in my heart and mind and memories

Baiastice Turban at Hair Fair Bandana Booth

The writer Shana Alexander wrote,”Hair brings one’s self-image into focus; it is vanity’s proving ground. Hair is terribly personal, a tangle of mysterious prejudices.” This was brought home to me when visiting my sister who has lost her hair to chemotherapy. Most of the time, she wore a jaunty cap on her head, but she also had a couple wigs. One for each time she got cancer. Get cancer, win a prize! She would dither over what to wear, trying on hats, scarves and her two wigs, turning her head this way and that. It was terribly important because it, more than anything else, allows her to feel normal, to go out into the world without confronting the avid concern of the people she encounters. She does not want her cancer to be prayed over or a topic of conversation. She knows what will be will be and she’s doing her damnedest to struggle to live well while she is living.

It is here in my heart and mind and memories

Kunglers Milena Earrings and El Dorado Necklace.

Imagine for a moment, how much more important that must be for a child. To not have to deal with questions or pity. Pity is hard to take. It is corrosive and erodes your sense of self, your agency, your power. Does anyone really, deep in their hearts, want pity? Compassion, understanding, empathy? Yes, a thousand times, but pity? Never.

Children feel the same emotions that adults do, but they don’t necessarily have the tools to protect themselves from intrusive curiosity or well-meaning but painful pity, or even worse, the mockery of unkind and unthinking children. For them, a wig can be a shield from pain, the armor of confidence. That is why Hair Fair is so important – raising funds to buy wigs for children suffering for whatever kind of hair loss, whether from alopecia or from chemotherapy.

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No, MY Favorite SL Blogs are the Ones to Read !

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It isn’t a terribly big secret that I don’t spend a LOT of time reading blogs, RL or other. There is probably some irony in there, but the truth is I work full time, I have four children and very busy and active RL. So I make the blogs I do read count, they’re something I am interested in either because of style and content, or because they provide insight and value to me as a blogger.

Gogolita started it off, and even though we’re friends I’m a little fangirly that she named our blog, I thought I’d kick it off to share who it is that I read, when I do read.

In no particular order:

Juicybomb  – Look Gogo’s awesome. She provides clean, clear photos of what is for sale and her vision of the style. She doesn’t get caught up in the artsy fartsy photoshopped hell of creating nothing but pics you can’t sort out. I look at Juicybomb because I am looking for things to BUY. She does great, easy to understand tutorials.

Freestyle – Yeah I still read Freestyle. You should too.

Sasypants – Well styled photos that are again, clean and concise with an eye toward editorial fashion, Sasy is an easy read when I want to see whats new and have a read.  Sasy does great tutorials or informational blogs sometimes too.

Shopping Cart Disco – Because it is an institution. Thats why.

Guerilla Avatar –  Darkley doesn’t know what a good blogger she is. Thus she doesn’t have the baggage some of the so called “THE” blogger types do.  She blogs honestly and from the heart and with passion and honesty for what she loves. I love her style.

Ani’s Second Life: I like her blog because besides cute fashion she always tells little stories with her pics. It’s sweet.

Sylvia Olivier : Her style and swagger is impeccable.

Broke by Payday: On this blog the photography is fun and fashions presented with humor and grace. I always enjoy it.

Insert Funny Name Here : Vaki brings the sexy to androgyny. That’s probably why I want to have sex with her all the time. Plus her style is flawless.

SeraphimSL : At least on Fridays every week.

So, who do you read? I mean besides ME? 🙂