The writer Shana Alexander wrote,”Hair brings one’s self-image into focus; it is vanity’s proving ground. Hair is terribly personal, a tangle of mysterious prejudices.” This was brought home to me when visiting my sister who has lost her hair to chemotherapy. Most of the time, she wore a jaunty cap on her head, but she also had a couple wigs. One for each time she got cancer. Get cancer, win a prize! She would dither over what to wear, trying on hats, scarves and her two wigs, turning her head this way and that. It was terribly important because it, more than anything else, allows her to feel normal, to go out into the world without confronting the avid concern of the people she encounters. She does not want her cancer to be prayed over or a topic of conversation. She knows what will be will be and she’s doing her damnedest to struggle to live well while she is living.
Imagine for a moment, how much more important that must be for a child. To not have to deal with questions or pity. Pity is hard to take. It is corrosive and erodes your sense of self, your agency, your power. Does anyone really, deep in their hearts, want pity? Compassion, understanding, empathy? Yes, a thousand times, but pity? Never.
Children feel the same emotions that adults do, but they don’t necessarily have the tools to protect themselves from intrusive curiosity or well-meaning but painful pity, or even worse, the mockery of unkind and unthinking children. For them, a wig can be a shield from pain, the armor of confidence. That is why Hair Fair is so important – raising funds to buy wigs for children suffering for whatever kind of hair loss, whether from alopecia or from chemotherapy.
The last day of Hair Fair we show solidarity by taking of our pixel hair and wearing a bandana. They are made by residents and creators and can be flat out wacky fun or glamorous like mine from Baiastice. They are 50L each and all of it goes to Hair Fair an then to Wigs For Kids. They are transfer so you can buy for friends. Perhaps you can have a bandana day shopping excursion at Hair Fair, all of you in bodacious bandanas, sexy scarves and towering turbans. It’s your last day, unlike the hair at Hair Fair, the bandanas will not be sold elsewhere. Like Cinderella, they will be gone at midnight. There is a bandana booth on every sim. They are wonderful and it’s for a great cause.
I hope you go to Hair Fair today and run through all the sims one last time. Thankfully, shoes in SL are comfortable no matter how high the heel, so you can even run the sims in super high shoes like these. I promise, it won’t hurt.
And while you’re at it, consider dropping a note or a thank you in the Hair Fair Guest Book.
Clothing: GizzA – Soraya Formal Dress [Red] Maitreya
Shoes: Glamistry : HYACINTH Heels
Jewelry: (Kunglers Extra) Eldorado – Necklace – gold
(Kunglers) Milena earrings – Garnet
Skin: Glam Affair Violet America
Hair: Baiastice_Myrian Turban-Gold
Appliers: Glam Affair ( Lelutka Heads ) Violet – America
Glam Affair ( Lelutka Heads ) Clara Applier [ America ]
Flair Mani Pedi
Eyes: [PXL] REFLEX Eyes (M) ~ GreenGold
Mesh Attachments: .LeLutka.Mesh Head-STELLA v1.6
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V3.5
Slink Avatar Enhancement Feet Deluxe V1.2.5
Slink Avatar Enhancement Hands V2.1 – – Elegant1
HUDS: Slink Ankle Lock
AnyPose Expression HUD