The Owls Have It

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Emery released pencil skirts and sweaters at Collabor88 this month. Both are great separates for mixing and matching, but the pencil skirts in particular are investment pieces. They are beautifully crafted as you can see in the picture below where I am sitting and you can see that the interior is lined so there is no alpha messing up the picture.  Continue reading

And I Need To Get Home

Home is that place where you walk in and you’re at ease, it’s your space. You’re not only welcome there you feel a strong sense of it being the right place. Sometimes it’s just your space, sometimes it’s a space you share. You can feel HOME at a place that isn’t your dwelling, and that’s the best feeling of all, because that’s the most welcoming and happy feeling of all. You know it’s a good place, if you feel like it’s home when you step inside.

Inside you usually find your people, even when you’re not connected by DNA.  Continue reading

A Damn Fine Cup of Coffee

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Relaxing at Agent Cooper’s desk with a damn fine cup of coffee from Schadenfreude.

When my father died, my sisters called to tell me. It was not unexpected and was, in many ways, a relief for him and everyone who loved him, but that does not lessen the loss or the finality of death. They gave me the news and I sat there, quietly stunned at how much more painful it was than Thought it would be. I think I whimpered, trying not to cry. So my oldest sister said, “Go make yourself a coffee. It’s a good thing. I’ll call you back after you’ve had a coffee.” I had to laugh to myself, because coffee as comfort is so very much the legacy of my dad, a first generation Swedish American.

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Such a messy desk! some of the mess comes in a great collection of clutter from Tres Blah at The Arcade that are must have pieces to turn houses into homes.

Coffee is a ritual for Scandinavians who consume more coffee per capita than any other people in the world. Most people in the US are familiar with coffee breaks at the work place, but in a Swedish American home, there are coffee breaks every day, when we would all sit down together and enjoy a good cup of coffee with some bread and cheese or some fruit or a dessert. And by all, I mean all. Children get coffee with milk as soon as they are old enough to hold a cup without spilling it. Continue reading

In Living Color

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How many of us have predominantly black, grey, and white clothing? How many homes have all white walls and neutrals with a “pop” of accent color? We don’t have achromatopsia, so why do we live like we do? Why are neutrals considered more tasteful than active, vibrant colors? 

Did you know that those classic white statues from ancient Rome and Greece were not originally white? They were painted and full of bright gaudy color. I wonder sometimes if the centuries of elevating their pristine monochromatic grandeur are why we are so shy with color in our lives today.
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I Am In a Land of Ice and Snow

The wintry weather is probably kicking me pretty hard by now, in my southern style coat. Luckily in SL I was able to keep warm thanks to Amitomo’s release for THE ARCADE. It’s even got a handy pouch for my passport. Which is PERFECT as I’m out of the US!

Now, I’m off to do northern things! Stay Pretty!

Gidge is Wearing:
Lashes: Amacci – Eyelash Tattoo 5
Beauty Mark: [PXL] Beauty Mark POS10 Dark SX
Neckware: AMITOMO.Bon Voyage Gacha 12. Passport Holder THE ARCADE
Jacket: AMITOMO.Bon Voyage Gacha 4.(F) Field jacket#4 M THE ARCADE
Camera: AMITOMO.Bon Voyage Gacha [RARE] Vintage Twin-lens reflex camera
THE ARCADE
Hair: Clawtooth: Audrey H. – Fat Pack COLLABOR88 March 2015
Hands: Slink Avatar Enhancement Hands V2 – L – Casual
Slink Avatar Enhancement Hands V2 – R – Elegant1
Body: Slink Physique Mesh Body V2.2
Skin: *League* Skin Erin Pale Mocha Blonde Chest D
Eyes: IKON Charm Eyes – Denim (M)
Pose: PRETENSE

There’s Nothing Virtual About Discrimination

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This is an old picture from 2012, but a situation came up last night and the sentiments fit the situation.

Since we can create our virtual selves to suit our aspirational selves, most of us come to see Second Life® as a refuge from the kinds of discrimination and bigotry that infect our first lives. Linden Labs has deliberately fostered a culture that actively discourages and prohibits racism, bigotry and hatred. Opposing intolerance is the very first principle in the Second Life Community Standards and LL claims it is a cornerstone of their standards.

Intolerance
Combating intolerance is a cornerstone of Second Life’s Community Standards. Actions that marginalize, belittle, or defame individuals or groups inhibit the satisfying exchange of ideas and diminish the Second Life community as a whole. The use of derogatory or demeaning language or images in reference to another Resident’s race, ethnicity, gender, religion, or sexual orientation is never allowed in Second Life. 

Last night a gay couple went to a dance club. They were dancing together as couples are accustomed to do in dance clubs when the owner, Zardozer Kirax interrupted. He asked them to read the club rules and “helpfully” sent them a notecard with the rules included. They soon discovered what rule they were violating.

We are asking all our Gay or Lesbian visitors to respect those patrons around them by not dancing up front.. We fully understand that you would want somewhere nice to spend time too. The garden is large and plenty of places for you to enjoy our venue.

Holy Rosa Parks, Batman! Could someone be more obtuse and offensive? Yes, I know and many have said, it is his land and he could make it private and only allow members, he could be explicit about his bigotry and declare it a straights-only club just as there are furry-only clubs and role-play-only clubs and so on. But he does not do that.

Like the businesses of Birmingham and the Jim Crow South, he wants the business, the traffic, the tips, the money of gay people, he just does not want to see their gayness and he wants to protect the delicate flowers who dance in his club from having to see “the gay.” This is about as obtusely offensive as one can be. After all, he is okay taking their tips, their traffic, but ewww, don’t let him see them dance together.

Here is a portion of the conversation between the club owners and the people he was discriminating against.  “I would be full happy to see you guys dancing off to the sides in the back half over at the falls in one of the hide outs we provide. All we ask is not in this area.”

Asking someone to move to the back, to the hide outs is the very definition of marginalizing them. If Linden Lab is serious about tolerance, they would discourage this behavior in a public club. And yes, I know his land his rules, but he is operating a public club, not a private club. Perhaps if he wants to impose his bigotry, he should create a private club for members only  with his homophobic rules clearly stated before people join, then they would avoid the very public pain of being asked to hide themselves from view.

So yes, “his land his rules”, but that does not exempt him or his club from criticism. Yes, people who are lesbian, gay, bi, trans, intersex or questioning may just decide they do not want to go to a club that does not want them. However, I hope people who support our LGBTIQ friends and family also would not want to go to such a place to support such a business.

Several people will wonder why anyone should care about some homophobe using a bit of server  space  in a virtual world to assert his bigotry. But here is the thing, this couple was told they are not welcome because of who they are, that they should hide in the corners out of sight, that their presence offends the people he cares about. The harm, the hurt, the emotional damage is as real as anything said on Main Street.

UPDATE: The rule has been changed and an apology was made.

UPDATE: I put scare quotes around “His land his rules” to clarify that I was responding to the several people who made that argument and not asserting that argument myself. Here in Oregon, refusing service to someone on the basis of the sexual orientation is against the law. A bakery was recently fined $150,000 for refusing to bake a cake for a gay wedding. It is also illegal in California where Linden Labs is incorporated. I would assume that would govern the rules in Second Life. However, the club owner shared a conversation with Second Life support that implied he was free to make up whatever rules he likes.

Time To Travel

It should come as no surprise that I ALWAYS overpack when I travel. This time I’m heading north north north from my warm southern home. It’s still terrible winter there, and I’m ill prepared for what that’s going to mean. But I’m going to pack pack pack and hope for the best. I know two pair of pajama pants might seem excessive but one is warm and one is cooler. And I need both casual clothes and work clothes.

Oh my this is going to be a lot of bags, isn’t it?

Well it doesn’t matter, the adventure alone will make lugging all these things along well worth it!

Gidge Is Wearing:
Lashes: Amacci – Eyelash Tattoo 5
Beauty Mark: [PXL] Beauty Mark POS10 Dark SX
Hare” .ploom. Hare (HB) (small) – Ploomage
Chemise: : Baiastice_LaceDream-Celeste-size S
Panties: Baiastice_LaceDream-panties-Celeste-size S
Wedding: EarthStones Destiny Bridal Set – Gold
Other Rings: Schadenfreude Badger Wee Beastie Ring
Schadenfreude Owl Wee Beastie Ring
Feet: Slink Avatar Enhancement Feet Mid Left V2.0
Slink Avatar Enhancement Feet Mid Right V2.0
Hands: Slink Avatar Enhancement Hands V2 – L – Casual
Slink Avatar Enhancement Hands V2 – R – Elegant1
Slink AvEnhance Hands and
Slippers: Slink Boudoir Slippers LDF White
Slink Physique Mesh Body V2.2
Skin: *League* Skin Erin Pale Mocha Blonde Chest D
Eyes: IKON Charm Eyes – Denim (M)