Helen Mirren gave an interview earlier this month that shocked some and made me happy. She said that she wished she had told more people to “fuck off” and it is not the first time. She once said if she had a daughter, that would be one of the first phrases she would want to teach her. As Mirren explained, “Unfortunately, at least for my generation, growing up (we didn’t say that) and I love the fact that girls are so much more confident and outspoken than my generation were. We were sort of brought up to be polite and sometimes politeness, in certain circumstances, is not what’s required, you’ve got to have the courage to stand up for yourself occasionally when it’s needed.”
I think a lot of us need to say those words more often. We often do things we do not want to do out of social expectations and traditions that really require a good fuck off. Of course, sometimes there are obligations and job requirements that just don’t allow us to say that, but then we have Second Life® and if there is any place on the planet where we should be free to do as we please, it should be Second Life.
That’s why I never feel bad about wearing clothes as I please and not just as they come in the folder. Of course, I don’t feel that is really saying “fuck off” to the designer, instead it is just showing that they clothing is more versatile that first envisioned. Of course, in this case, I think wearing this dress differently than pictured in the vendor ad is intentional, otherwise, why would the designer make it so versatile.
Mami Jewell has released several gowns in exclusive colors for the celebration of the store’s anniversary. One of them is this lovely Francesca gown with a full length skirt of flexi petals. It also has a burst of flowers on the shoulder that I left off, thinking they would be a bit much with the hat I am wearing.
But, look how lovely the dress is even without the skirt. It makes me think that Mami intends us to be able to wear it short as well as long. So I went for short so I can show off these gorgeous print shoes from MiaMai.
The hat is from Bliss Couture which remains open, to the relief of hat lovers everywhere. The jewelry is from Cae, where you can always find the perfect combination of modern minimalism and feminine elegance. The Ximena updo is a graceful and casual one from Truth that was just released.
The skin is Lumber’s Niska from My Attic. I have worn it for the last few days because I really love it. I love the strong eyebrows and the pearlescent skin.
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Clothing: -AZUL- Francesca MESH /Sakura Exclusive Release for Anniversary Sale
!*Bliss Couture*! Rosanna Hat – Pink
Shoes: Miamai_Georgia pumps (peep toe) – red cedar “sakura”
Jewelry: Cae Flora Necklace, Nostalgia, EArrings and Ring
Skin: Lumae Niska for My Attick
Hair: TRUTH HAIR Ximena
Poses: oOo Studio
Appliers: Flair Mani/Pedi 223
Lumae Niska Satin
Eyes: pc eyes by LL – shallow water – medium
Mesh Attachments: .LeLutka.Mesh Head-STELLA v1.1
Slink Avatar Enhancement Feet Mid V2.1
Slink Avatar Enhancement Hands V2.1 – Elegant1
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V3.4
HUDS: AnyPose Expression HUD v1.0 – Wear Me
Cajsa I think there is a difference between being assertive and deliberately offensive.
My mother always said, “Don’t take shit from anyone.” So very true! Fortunately, I’ve adapted that to include the phrase, “Fuck off”. Unfortunately others (mostly on the receiving end) don’t appreciate it.
I love that pink sheath!
The important part is the belief that you have to right to say it, not so much saying it. You can think “fuck off” and say “No, thank you.” But, if you’re thinking “fuck off” you will say no with conviction and not end up doing something you don’t want to do because of social pressure.