Requiem pour Lyly Straaf

posted by Gidge Uriza

My friend Lyly Straaf died.

She died in RL, so it’s permanent, and not some SL moment that can be corrected.

I can’t share with you about the little hands that will miss her, or the man that grieves. Or about what happened or how very sudden and tragic it is. These are not mine to tell, and I won’t break the rules of the grid and pour out the words that would make her flesh instead of pixel.

But I can share with you that she was funny. And we often had such a silly time in the past, filling up prims decorating a place to Vic’s chagrin. Griefing him with funny objects when he went AFK for too long. Laughing about our frustrations and spending time sometimes just talking about nothing.

We didn’t always get along. We’re girls after all, and cats will fight.

Our fights were often silent. Disagreement, frustration with the other would cause us to retreat to neutral corners, only to come out again when we’d forgotten why we weren’t speaking.

I knew her a long time, in SL terms.

I knew her long enough that when she unfriended me a couple of months ago, after a fight with Vic (I was apparently being unfriended because if there was a wedding I’d be sitting on VIc’s side of the church and not hers) – that when she unfriended me I said “Fuck that bitch, I could GIVE a fuck about being her friend.”

Of course, I didn’t mean it. I thought we’d come out of our neutral corners…….maybe at the holidays again like the picture at the top. I had been thinking, over the past few days, about last Christmas at Lampir, and how much fun we had decorating and planning together.  Because when we got along, we got along famously.  I thought we had time. I thought I had time.

She will be missed by the people who frequent Vicious Island who know her as a fun hostess and warm friend. She will be missed by Vic who loved in both lives.

And she will be missed by me.

I always did give a fuck about being her friend. I was just too stupid to let her know.

No fashion, no fancy photos. If you would like to see the sort of parties we used to throw at Vicious, the blog can be found Here. If you loved Lyly, as so many people did, you are likely to find many happy memories in the pictures there.

If you see Vicente Bolero, say something nice. He’s lost his love.

10 thoughts on “Requiem pour Lyly Straaf

  1. sasyscarborough

    You just made the time ♥ I am so sorry about your loss, thank you for sharing this lady with us, my condolences also to her friends and family and her love.

    xox Sasy xox

  2. elusyve jewell

    losses are never easy, especially when we have “what ifs or I should have” adding to our grief. It sounds like you had the type of friendship that went beyond requiring words, I hope you can find some comfort in knowing that more often than not, a friend like her feels exactly the same as you do.

  3. kesseret

    I will second what Elusyve said and what Sasy said. My condolences to all of her friends and family in all lives.


  4. Skate Foss

    I never knew Lyly Straaf, but I am saddened by her passing. She was a great friend of yours and you two had a beautiful bond. All too often we’re awakened from this fantasy universe we slip into by events in hard reality. Its the passing of our avatar friends that show us how our Second Life is not immune from the real world after all. The passing of Lyly Straaf, reminds us, never take any SL friend for granted, cherish every moment we have.

  5. Cajsa Lilliehook

    I will never forget when lyly wanted to test out the Rendezvous to see if it would be a good gift for Vic’s birthday and so we tried out all the dances, hugs and other date animations. I laughed until I hurt. She was always laughing and up for a good time. I, too, regret letting our friendship drift apart after I quit working at Vicious. It’s sad, but we all do that in RL and in SL – as circumstances change. We should all try to do better and remember to say hi to old friends.

    There is a lovely memorial to Lyly at El Draco club and on the SL Radio France website.

  6. tiffergg

    I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. I will keep you, as well as lyly’s friends and family, in my thoughts during this difficult time.

  7. Annabella Donner


    I am very sorry for your loss. It is always extra hard when one has regrets, and I am sorry you did not have time to sort things out.

    Elusyve put it well. It is quite likely that Lyly felt the same way.

  8. Batoo Koba

    I share your sadness Gidge.

    I have just lost a friend who counted a lot for me. I arrived on SL shortly before Lyly and we fast became very friendly … and even more. For some months, my worries RL made me forget to ask him for news. Now, I would not have it any more!

    Tu vas me manquer ma belle !!!

  9. Ewan Seetan

    I’m her sl son. And even if in RL i’m older than her, she acted like a real mother to me.

    I miss her so much, there isn’t a day since she left me, where i don’t think of her.

    Thank you for those words about her. You described her at perfection. I had sometimes fights with her too. I agree with you, you can’t stay away from her for a long time. It’s virtually impossible ^^

    I want to take the opportunity to say that if i am what i am on SL, it’s thanks to lyly. I’ll never be able to thank her for taking me as her son.

    Btw if you know her as much as i know her, you can be pretty shure she’s putting a nuclear mess there in heaven ^^

    Poor god :p

    I love you mum, i’ll never forget you!

  10. Iftikhar

    It reminds me of my own tragedy. Knowing someone only Online, pain can be devastating.

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