The relationship between designers and bloggers has generated a lot of conversation lately — and that is certainly preferable to allowing anger, frustration and resentment to bubble beneath the surface. For me, though, many of these discussions spend too little time reflecting on the symbiotic relationship between blogger and designer and that leads to an unnecessary and misleading polarization of the issue. Bloggers and creators should not be polarized, because they need each other and their relationship is symbiotic, not parasitic.
Don’t get me wrong. I roll my eyes when I see increasingly prescriptive demands from creators, but I understand where the motivation for these demands originate. There are more and more and more bloggers everyday. It is clear that several, though not most, people who decide to blog see it as an opportunity to get free stuff. There is plenty of evidence for this from Flickr posters soliciting “blog sponsors” without regard to their own aesthetic to the fact that I, a blogger who has made exactly two projectors for sale, get random notecards asking me to add people to my blogging team. Hah!
If you are sending me a notecard, you have not looked at what I make. If you have not looked at what I make, you don’t care about the quality or creativity or any of the other reasons someone would want to blog another’s items. You just want stuff.
I do not disapprove of a blogger contacting a designer. I have myself. However, I only do it when that designer speaks to me with their creations. When a designer’s work stands out from the crowd. When I have worn it and blogged it and know I love it. When their work suits my taste and the way I think about clothing. Yes, then I will read their profile to learn how they recruit new bloggers and follow their instructions. I may be one of the “old guard”, but I still follow instructions. The key point though, is that I only ask if their work is something I would still wear and still buy, if and when I can afford it, whether they added me as a blogger or not.
That shirt! You know the one I mean. We all have one. The shirt we have owned since forever, that repeated washings and years of wear have softened the fabric to a perfect level of comfort. It is the adult equivalent of a blankie. A shirt that ends up in every load of laundry because after a hard day, we put it on the minute we get home, as though putting on a hug. We have forgotten to turn it inside out a few hundred times and the fabric is pilling and snags are visible here and there, but we don’t care. It is our favorite shirt and we will keep it until it falls apart on our body.
Whatever sizing and substance the fabric once held is gone. It conforms to our body like a second skin, a cozy, comfy, second skin that says “You’re good enough. You’re smart enough. And doggone it, people like you.” We have that shirt in our first lives, but now we can have it in our second as well, thanks to Vinyl’s Little Toast (sukoshitosuto) and any doubts whether this distress and well-worn look was not deliberate can be dispelled with a look at some of the other options on the texture hud.
After I got some Collabor88 sorted out I decided to head to a magical little cafe I know for some breakfast. It’s a perfect spot for a lovely, windswept breakfast and if you like that sort of thing, this place is just for you. Continue reading →
I hadn’t ever heard of The Trace Too until Cajsa linked to Ziki Quest’s blog. I feel a bit sad that I’ve probably missed out on something all this time, and now it will be leaving us. I am sadder, however, that it seems another SLer is struggling with health issues.
I don’t know the person who’s sim this is, nor the people doing a little fundraiser. But what I do know is what it’s like to feel helpless while someone you care about is ill across the globe, to watch and worry about the worst, and how it feels when the worst happens. All of that I’ve got in spades. So I went over to shoot some pics and promote their effort to remember their friend.
In SL sometimes that’s the best we can do for our friends, and I’m glad to support that. Continue reading →
An early studio day has me questioning whether I need more coffee or what. My shadows have been wonked since about 7 am, with my shadows having shadows. I’m not sure why, but I have decided to call it art and roll with it. I can remember when it was the case of “some had shadows and some had none”. Well now I have more shadows than you.
LOOK ON ME.
Just kidding, I don’t know what that is but hey, it’s not the worst thing that ever happened. Continue reading →
Foxes has released this beautifully fitted and textured dress in a mind-numbing 24 different versions from sparked to ombres to solids with standard sizing and sizing for specific mesh bodies. Obviously, the Foxes creator has given up on sleep.
The long list for the Man Booker prize was announced yesterday and I have only read one of them. That is one reason it is my favorite book list. It goes beyond bestseller lists and borders, elevating excellent fiction from all over the world. Usually by the time the next list is out, I have read my way through the list. It is changing, though, until 2013, the authors had to come from the Commonwealth and now it is open to authors from any country so long as they write in English and their books are published in the UK. For the first time there are five American writers on the list. Will this change the complexion of the list? I don’t know. I hope not.
I have been on a lucky streak lately, reading several good books in a row. Right now I am reading The Sellout by Paul Beatty, an hilarious satire of post-racial America. The protagonist’s father is killed by the police in what is supposed to be a ridiculously senseless and satirical example of police violence. Unfortunately, reality has surpassed satire on that score.
Sometimes you have one of those posts where you’re going to say a lot of things and then you realize you don’t have the mental energy for the follow up conversations that will happen?
This is one of those posts.
I’m travelling and thought I’d kick off with some swimming but I wandered into this place, and now I think my travels might just end up being a tour of LEA. Not the worst thing, but the windlights are hell on our skin.
“Writing is an exploration. We start with nothing and learn as we go.”
~ E.L. Doctorow
Gidge is Wearing:
Earrings: (Yummy) Double Heart Studs – Diamond – L
(Yummy) Double Heart Studs – Diamond- R
Head: .LeLutka.Mesh Head-ARIA v1.1
Skin: League: Milla for Lelutka Head – Pale
Eyes: Mayfly – Luminous – Mesh Eye (London Fog, w2) L
Mayfly – Luminous – Mesh Eye (London Fog, w2) R
Playsuit: Lacuna – Playsuit in Ocean Blue for My Attic
Feet: : Slink Avatar Enhancement Feet High Left V2.1
Slink Avatar Enhancement Feet High Right V2.1
Hands: Slink Avatar Enhancement Hands V2 – L – Point
Slink Avatar Enhancement Hands V2 – R – Elegant
Body: Slink Physique Mesh Body V2.3.1
Hair: TRUTH HAIR Ami
Every month after I pay tier I pick out something I want to get, usually something not small and treat myself. This month my goal was more appliers for my Lelutka face. I wear ARIA most of the time now (I feel like I should take the others for a stroll more often) and I’ve got a small closet of skins for it but my desire is that I can wear ANY of my favorite’s ANY TIME. I don’t want to take my head off to wear you. Continue reading →
In my youth I was notorious for ONE MORE when I got home. Just ONE MORE. You hate for the fun to end, just one more drink, something fun before you let sleep take over. It’s a time waster, filling your hours until reality returns. But it provides relief from whatever you’re avoiding anyway – at least sometimes it does.
Two things to share on this Thursday. I just realized that this dress I blogged the other day actually comes in sizes FITTED to the Belleza body – I’m wearing my Isis body and the version of the dresses FOR that body. HOT DAMN. That’s brilliant. Continue reading →