What Was His Name?

Early AM exits leave little time for musing or regret.

Gidge is Hungover In:

Skin: Pink Fuel

Ring: (Yummy) Diamond Solitaire Ring – Gold – Maitreya

Head: LeLutka.Head.Greer 3.4

Dress: Belle Epoque { Amaia } BELH

Body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.0

Hair: [LCKY] Poppy

Shape: Juicy – Meghan Shape GIDGE Edit  2019

Fake Coffee

Just a digital girl looking for a cup of coffee. This place seems a little rough.

I know Valentine’s is over, but my love of coffee is forever.

Skin: Pink Fuel
Ring: (Yummy) Diamond Solitaire Ring – Gold – Maitreya
Hair: -FABIA- Mesh Hair Gift < Lilak>
Head: .LeLutka.Head.Greer 3.4
Dress: Belle Epoque { Belle Dancing } Dress BELH
Jewlery: Cae :: Amora
Shape: Juicy – Meghan Shape GIDGE Edit 2019

Love KittyCats – a Giveaway – updated with Winner!

Free Gift From KittyCats – a Cupid Kitty!

**Congrats to Diego Savagard who was our winner! I have sent you the prize in world! ** Sorry my computer and I have been at odds!

So I’m fully engrossed in the upcoming Valentine’s holiday and I had to run the gauntlet at the Shop and Hop event. Have you been yet? The gifts are plentiful, and I’m kicking off my celebration of them with this floating Cupid kitty who is following me everywhere. He is your free gift from KittyCats!

That sweet little statue of a red kitty is actually the Kitty Cats Gift card for the Shop and Hop event! I’ve got one just for you!

You can win this gift card just by leaving your real SL name in the comments! Don’t leave me your Display Name because I’m sure there are plenty Daddysdirtyprincess69s out there. Leave me a comment and I will draw for a winner (and send it to you) on this coming Wednesday February 12th. Wanna surprise someone with a KittyCat or maybe just give one to your own damn self? Here is your chance.

I’ll give you an extra bonus entry if you correctly name one of my CURRENT KittyCats that I’ve had the entire 9 years since KittyCats opened!

Meet my newest member of the KittyCats Family – Daryl!

Now, get in those comments!

Gidge is Crazy for KittyCats in: 

Skin: Glam Affair

Glasses: (Yummy) Cat Eye Readers – Pastel Pink

Ring: (Yummy) Diamond Solitaire Ring – Gold – Maitreya

Earrings: (Yummy) Double Heart Studs – Diamond 

Rings: (Yummy) Unicorn Rings – Maitryea

Head: .LeLutka.Head.Greer 3.4

Shorts: =Zenith=Summer Short Jeans with Belt (all Colors) -Maitreya

Shirt: e.marie // No BF no Prob Tee – Pink {lara exp}

Kittycat: KittyCatS! – I LOVE YOU! Angel 2020 (WEAR ME) gift at Shop and hop

Shoes: Pure Poison – Shaleene Flats – Pink – Maitreya

Hair: [elikatira] Stella

Shape: Juicy – Meghan Shape GIDGE Edit  2019

Gorgeous

AlaskaMetro Lingerie from Shop & Hop

I am in love with this bodysuit. Not sure where I’ll wear it – or how, but the detailing on it is amazingly gorgeous.

It’s another one of her great sale items – on sale for a killer steal of a price.

Gidge is Lacey In:

Skin: Pink Fuel Anja

Ring: (Yummy) Diamond Solitaire Ring – Gold – Maitreya

Head: .LeLutka.Head.Greer 3.4

Hair: Exxess – Coral

Lingerie: AlaskaMetro Eva – Lace Bodysuit

Body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.0

Manicure: Alaska Metro

Attack of the 50 Foot Avatar

I had a little fun dorking around an art installation that lets you BE the art.

How fun is this?

This slinky dress is a gorgeous little freebie from Lassitude and Ennui and I grabbed it at – you guessed it – Shop & Hop!

Gidge is Artsy In:

Skin: Glam Affair:

Ring: (Yummy) Diamond Solitaire Ring – Gold – Maitreya

Head: .LeLutka.Head.Greer 3.4

Hair: Exile:: Jen

Dress: lassitude & ennui Date night dress – red (Maitreya Lara) – Shop and Hop

Body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.0Shoes:

[Enchante’] – Carmen Heels – Maitreya – Cherry

Delicate

Beautiful Lingerie – now at Shop & Hop from ALASKA METRO

I was originally compelled to run over to the Shop & Hop event because of the beautiful lingerie that Alaska Metro posted on Plurk. Lingerie in SL can be so run of the mill, so boring. There are only a few brands I’ll even bother looking at. But Alaska isn’t just a really creative, quality skinner, the clothing items she makes are always top notch.

Such as, this gorgeous piece.

She’s having an INSANE sale at her main store as well – at least I think it’s still going on. I urge you to RUN don’t walk to both Shop & Hop and her main store. I think I snagged this lingerie for less than 50L.

What are you waiting for?

You can run over to the Shop & Hop event by taking this taxi.

You might be tempted to just run to look for one thing, I suggest you get a cold drink and take a leisurely stroll around all four sims. Every booth (nearly) has a free gift of some sort and they’re not even all chokers (as you know the LAMEST of all free gifts IMO).

But seriously, there is MUCH to love.

Gidge is Sexy In:

Glasses: (Yummy) Cat Eye Readers – Pastel Pink

Ring: (Yummy) Diamond Solitaire Ring – Gold – Maitreya

Head: .LeLutka.Head.Greer 3.4

Hair: Exile:: Yasmin – collabor88

Body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V5.0

Slippers: [Maitreya] The Secret Store – Boudoir Slippers – Rose

Shape: Juicy – Meghan Shape GIDGE Edit  2019

Skin: -Glam Affair – Amberly II – Asia 01 E

Cooking for One

I just stick my hand right in, yes I do.

My house is finally coming together with the requisite Gidginess that is required of any place I call home. The ocean air really makes me feel like I’m home again, and I’m finally figuring out what things are going to be part of my 2020 SLife.

Even as the evening cools off, I love these big windows letting in the fresh air. Warm soup, warm tea, perfect evening.

Life in Bellisseria is quiet and lovely. Wish you were here.

Gidge is hanging out in:

Skin: Glam Affair

Tank: :::Sn@tch Mindy Ribbed Bodysuit Top (Red-U):::

Ring: (Yummy) Diamond Solitaire Ring – Gold – Slink

Head: .LeLutka.Head.Greer 3.4

Top: .miss chelsea. Hali Sweater HG Garbage

Hair: Exile:: Kat (L)

Body: Slink Physique Hourglass Mesh Body (Redux) V4.1.0

Pants: [HG]The Secret Store – Lois Fitted Pants – Black Marble

Shape: Juicy – Meghan Shape

I Own This Dress

Ever get that feeling of Deja Vu and you’re not sure why? I picked up this dress for free at an event because hey, free dresses are good (sometimes). I was tickled that it wasn’t fug when I got dressed for SL Blogger work and decided it would be my styling inspiration for the day.

As I stood there doing my hair and deciding on jewelry I had this nagging feeling and I wondered, hadn’t I see this before.

I definitely already owned this dress.

So, there are some things I’ve decided and these are them.

  1. I definitely owned this dress or a dress that is EERILY similar.
  2. This means the person I originally bought this from, and the person who put it out as a gift purchased a template.
  3. The person I originally made this dress might have later released it as a template.

What do I think about these things?

I think I don’t fucking care.

Here’s the thing, free gifts are one of those things that are either amazing or garbage. They’re free so you can’t really complain but none of us need new “freebie” chokers if someone could please take note of that. You wanna drop some sexytimes scripts in one and make it free you might gain kudos from a certain crowd but mostly man, nobody wants that your freebie choker.

Templates don’t burn my butter like they do some people. I’m not mad. Seriously. I’m not too good to wear a template so have at it. If I like it I’m not gonna be salty with you about what you’ve released unless it’s ugly or stupid.

Yes, I’m the one who decides if it’s stupid.

With that being said, I also want to say that some templates are garbage. Please check them out a bit before you drop them out for sale or for free.

With all of THAT being said, I’m actually really delighted with this dress. It’s very cute and sassy. I liked it the first time, I like it this time. Well done both of you who picked out this one or whatever it is that happened.

I didn’t go looking t see where I got it originally. I don’t care. I’m at peace.

Now, I need to finish my house.

Gidge is playing it again in:

Skin: Glam Affair

Ring: (Yummy) Diamond Solitaire Ring – Gold – Slink

Head:.LeLutka.Head.Greer 3.4

Shoes: fame femme: Lina heels – SLink – Red

Necklace: LaGyo_Metis necklace Gold

Dress: Seniha. Kristy Dress 2 // Hourglas

Body: Slink Physique Hourglass Mesh Body (Redux) V4.1.0

Hair: [LCKY] Poppy

Shape: Juicy – Meghan Shape

Delusions Are Not For Our Amusement

It is human nature to reach out to help someone who is flailing. I am writing to suggest that sometimes we should not. Rather than name this flailing person, let’s call her Nora, after my cat. Nora allegedly abused someone’s trust. That person submitted a Virtual Secret to call her out for it. Nora reacted badly. This happened quite a while ago. Nora is still reacting badly. 

If you’re unfamiliar with Virtual Secrets, it was originally founded in hopes of soliciting the sort of confessional sharing of experiences and feelings that make Post Secrets such a heart-wrenching and heartwarming window into humanity. It didn’t work out that way. 

Second Life is extraordinarily libertarian in its social controls. In the absence of official moral regulators, mores are established by unofficial means such as gossip and shaming. This is likely the reason that Virtual Secrets became more like the back fence, where people gossip about those who transgress by copying, diverting charitable funds, or cheating on friends. No matter its original purpose, it has come to serve as the place where people draw the bounds of acceptable behavior. 

When someone is shamed on Secrets, they have a few options:

  1. Be flattered that someone has given them rent-free space in their heads. 
  2. Proclaim they have made it and surely must now be part of the FIC (Prok’s Feted Inner Circle) 
  3. Refuse it air. Ask their friends not to defend them. Let it die in the emptiness of disregard. 
  4. Defend themselves with facts. Present evidence calmly and without rancor. 

And then there is what Nora did. She rushed to explain her actions with dozens of comments, catching the attention of the people who might have scrolled past a rather ordinary secret. She began submitting secrets about other people and herself and posting hundreds of comments on Secrets week after week until she was finally banned. Similar behavior in resulted in similar repercussions. The flailing has continued for months now.

Every day is Festivus and she airs her grievances everywhere. Not just in SL groups, the community forum, her blog, Facebook, and Discord. Everywhere, even sites unrelated to SL like Disney’s forum This has gone on for months and every trouble in her life is blamed on Virtual Secrets and the expanding list of people who have now become her nemeses. By everything, that includes a leaking bathtub and being unable to sleep. There is no point in cataloging the depth and breadth of this because it is based in delusion. She now lives in an altered timeline where her mistreatment has gone on for years and years, repeatedly claiming she’s been abused for years – sometimes over a decade.

So let me tell you about delusion. It feels real. 

When my kidneys failed after a surgery I experienced renal psychosis complete with visual and auditory hallucinations. Nothing anyone told me was more persuasive than the delusions I witnessed with my own eyes. When people argued with me, it was so frustrating because I knew what they said was false. After all, I saw with my own eyes and heard with my own ears a far different truth. To this day, what I remember from those days are the delusions which are all that feels real. I do not remember what actually happened. As the wash of chemicals that flooded my system when my kidneys shut down were flushed away, I returned to reality and recognized the delusions for what they were, but they remain vivid visual “memories.” If that kind of delusion is what drives Nora, there is nothing we can do other than hope she finds a good doctor who will serve her well. We cannot help her. 

Some of us are bemused, some are appalled, and some are amused by her ranting. Few take her seriously, but we should. She is not just an avatar. She is a real person. She is suffering, but she is also dangerous. If this were happening in a film or movie, we would recognize the danger. We would know that a persistent obsession that includes nearly daily messages, several threatening violence, is dangerous. Do we discount the danger when it’s a woman doing it? 

Nora has threatened people’s lives, has promised to come to their home, has threatened their children, and has made foul and disgusting allegations about people and their children. She harasses people with chronic illnesses. She apologizes and repeats. All of her apologies come with a but. 

Nora is in a self-reinforcing cycle of obsession. She enters a new group and begins to rant. People react and she does not understand they are reacting to her behavior, believing those she fears directed them to ban her. Everything is the fault of the people she has given so much power in her life. Illness is not entertainment. 

 In our virtual world we watch people melt down and behave this way and the crowd laughs. “What a wack, what a crazy” we say. We laugh because she’s powerless…right? She’s just an avatar, right? In fact, the crowd incites her – mocks her rage, mocks her anguished and incoherent rants against wrongs both perceived and real.

She isn’t just an avatar. None of us are. She’s a human and she deserves the same level of respect and regard that anyone else does. This includes respecting that she may be dangerous. This includes understanding that mental illness is likely the primary driver of her behavior.  A member of your family in the middle of a psychotic break would evoke concern so you seek a solution to keep them safe and out of harm’s way. 

Why then is someone experiencing the same event online seen as a form of entertainment? Why are we not taking Nora’s threats seriously? Why do we indulge her? Why doesn’t Linden Lab lock her out of this game that is inciting her to ever more serious anger and threatening behavior? Why do people bait her? And yes, I realize this may be seen as more of the same though I hope by using my cat’s name, we take this into a less emotional direction and ask what if she were our family or our friend and not this person who has plucked our last nerve.

How about instead of trying to explain how she is the problem we just don’t respond. How about we don’t try to show how we are the special someone who cares. She doesn’t listen to anyone and none of us are that special someone who will finally reach through the layers of delusion to a well person. There is no well person inside there. Many of us see her desperation and want to help but our help makes no sense to her. All it does is convince her of how much larger the conspiracy is. It is cruel to engage. It does not make us look good. 

None of us can help Nora, we can only reinforce her delusions. None of us can get her the help she needs or disconnect her from an internet to which she is addicted and ill-served by. It would be good if family stepped in, but since they have not, it is on us to disengage completely. Refuse to respond, do not try to make her see sense, it is not possible. 

Having experienced delusions, I can tell you that people telling me I didn’t see what I saw or experience what I experienced was so frustrating and angering. It was also frightening. It made me feel alone and persecuted by liars. You are not helping Nora by telling her she is wrong and perceiving things wrong, you are just frightening her. The best way to help her is to ignore her and hope her family or her county mental health services can do right by her. We cannot. 

This opinion essay was written by Gidge and I, but Nora is my cat and I had renal psychosis, something which makes me understand Nora, I think. 

Midweek Work

I chose the smaller bedroom for my own sleeping quarters in this big old house. It’s got the best views of the sea and I’ll use the bigger room for a giant closet/dressing room.

I’m off to get a bit of work done today, but I can’t wait to get home and return to decorating my new house.

It’s a Thursday but it’s a Monday but I don’t even care.

Happy whatever day it is everyone!

Gidge is waking up in: 

Ring: (Yummy) Diamond Solitaire Ring – Gold – Slink

Head:.LeLutka.Head.Greer 3.4

Lingerie:CLOE.Farrah Diamond

Hair: Exile:: Alibi (BENTO)

Body:Slink Physique Hourglass Mesh Body (Redux) V4.1.0

Shape: Juicy – Meghan Shape GIDGE Edit  2019

Skin: -Glam Affair – Greer – Asia