One of the rules I live by comes from Voltaire, who said “The perfect is the enemy of the good.” A similar idea is attributed to Confucius, “Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without.” I really took this aphorism to heart when a friend of mine was writing a book on dismantling racism. I was reading, editing and helping him find illustrations. The book was ready to go for a few years before it was published because he kept trying to perfect it, looking for a better example, a more perfect metaphor, a stronger anecdote, a better adjective. I ended up making him a sign on a huge poster board with Voltaire’s quote blown up big and stuck in on the wall by his desk. It still took him another six months to let it out of his perfection-seeking hands.
I was listening to Leonard Cohen’s newest album, Popular Problems. His 80 year old voice is rough, dry and imperfect, but those imperfections give it such an emotional resonance that my skin prickled and raised goosebumps and my eyes became hot with emotion ready to brim over in tears. While listening, that quote from Voltaire came to mind again and I had a small epiphany. The perfect is the enemy of the good in another way – not only does the search for perfection paralyze us, but it also does not move us emotionally. Thinking of another Canadian singer, Celine Dion has perfect pitch. Her voice is flawless and strong and she has never once moved me emotionally. Even singing songs with sentimental lyrics, she leaves me cold and I don’t care for her at all. Perfection is not beautiful, imperfection is.
Cajsa’s impeccable taste and Second Life’s lack of effective inventory searching lead to me getting this dress. There is nothing about that which I find to be a problem. In fact, I feel like I’ve totally scored. Continue reading →
Yellow is underrated on blondes. I think striking yellows just accentuate beautiful blondes though. SLINK released a one shoulder dress in many colors, of which yellow is one, which is really an understatement.
A one shoulder dress doesn’t really express how necessary this dress is. It should be called NECESSARY ONE SHOULDER DRESS. Continue reading →
You might begin to think that we aren’t allowed to wear proper clothes with our Belleza Venus bodies but this just isn’t true. I think, though, that when we get a reason to be naked of half naked on the feeds, we just run with it.
Dave Loggins wrote “Please come to Boston” which opens with a plea to his love to travel to Boston in the springtime. She refuses, telling him to come home to her. It is a lovely ballad of frustrated love between a rambling man and a homebody. Of course, I think his timing is wrong. He should have asked her to Denver in the spring and to Boston in the fall, not the other way around. Boston and its environs are so beautiful in the fall. And then she would could have worn wonderfully classic sweaters like this argyle from Gizza aptly names Boston. There is also a coordinating skirt and collar and the outfit comes in many styles from this classic argyle to stylized baroque a la McQueen. Continue reading →
I’ve promised Cajsa I’d made something to promote Breast Self Exams for some time, but life gets in the way. Just like not checking your breast for lumps, life gets in the way, you forget to do it.
Today is the one year anniversary of the day that we lost a brillant creator, and a lovely friend, to cancer. Her journey began with breast cancer. I still miss her and her amazing wit, and her startling timeless designs.
You can pick up this pose for free, to help remind us all to take better care of ourselves in the RL at PRETENSE POSES on Juicy.