Pixicat’s Ambrosia dress for Collabor88 is a dream for flower lovers and isn’t that everyone? The HUD lets you change the color of the flowers and the dress. I went for white with black flowers, loving the drama, but I could have chosen pastels, bold red and blue or even white. Each choice gives the dress a different emotional tenor. Then I can change the color of the dress, too. So much choice.
This fun dress from SPIRIT is a winner in my book. There is a HUD that allows you to change the top and the skirt independently, so this could be all print, all solid, and mixed as you see here. The gap on the midriff is echoed on the back. I like the retro sensibility of the print.
The writer Shana Alexander wrote,”Hair brings one’s self-image into focus; it is vanity’s proving ground. Hair is terribly personal, a tangle of mysterious prejudices.” This was brought home to me when visiting my sister who has lost her hair to chemotherapy. Most of the time, she wore a jaunty cap on her head, but she also had a couple wigs. One for each time she got cancer. Get cancer, win a prize! She would dither over what to wear, trying on hats, scarves and her two wigs, turning her head this way and that. It was terribly important because it, more than anything else, allows her to feel normal, to go out into the world without confronting the avid concern of the people she encounters. She does not want her cancer to be prayed over or a topic of conversation. She knows what will be will be and she’s doing her damnedest to struggle to live well while she is living.
Imagine for a moment, how much more important that must be for a child. To not have to deal with questions or pity. Pity is hard to take. It is corrosive and erodes your sense of self, your agency, your power. Does anyone really, deep in their hearts, want pity? Compassion, understanding, empathy? Yes, a thousand times, but pity? Never.
Children feel the same emotions that adults do, but they don’t necessarily have the tools to protect themselves from intrusive curiosity or well-meaning but painful pity, or even worse, the mockery of unkind and unthinking children. For them, a wig can be a shield from pain, the armor of confidence. That is why Hair Fair is so important – raising funds to buy wigs for children suffering for whatever kind of hair loss, whether from alopecia or from chemotherapy.
My mother always told me to dress up when I felt tired, to dress happy when I was sad, and to recognize that sometimes clothing is more than something to safeguard modesty, provide warmth and protection from the elements, solicit attention, or display personal style and taste. Sometimes it is also a therapeutic carapace, a shell that hides our weaknesses and counters our grief and sorrow with defiant counterpoint.
Joy Sewing of the Houston Chronicle wrote a fun article called Why a yellow dress is more than a yellow dress. Could anyone who is feeling low find a more perfect carapace to project power, strength and joy than this bold, yet minimalist, sheath from Thalia Heckroth™?
I decided it is time to buckle up for Hair Fair and how better to do that than with the fabulously buckled dress from Zenith at Collabor88 this month. I added the incredible Bastet arm bands from Pixicat that were released at Arcade about 6 months ago and a pair of sunglasses from this month’s Baiastice releases for Collabor88.
This new top and skirt from Hucci for Collabor88 is just the ticket for showing off some of the longer hair styles from Hair Fair. It’s short, cheeky and free of collars (or even fabric) to interfere with the hair.
I had college roommates from Malaysia who wore sarongs all the time. It was amazing how active they could be without their sarongs coming loose. They showed me the proper way to wear a sarong and even gave me several sarongs over time, but I never quite got the knack and always worried when I had my hands full that my sarong might come loose without a hand to grab it. No such worries with the Hucci sarong though. Pixel knots stay in place.