Queen Elizabeth I had it right some 450 years ago when she said “I would not open windows into men’s souls.” We all have opinions and we have a right to them — even if they are stupid, destructive and wrong. I think most of agree on that. Where we diverge is when our opinions move to actions that impinge on other people. That happens all the time in society. Much of politics is about building enough political power to be able to take our opinions and move them into actions that impinge on others whether it’s trying to prevent others from marrying whom they love or blocking companies from polluting our groundwater – it is about making our opinions trump those of others.
But there are places where moving from thought to action has no place. The particular circumstance I am thinking of is the effort people make to discourage others from giving to or supporting community efforts to help others in Second Life®. We all may have opinions about the relative merits of one fundraiser over another and we certainly should make no effort to support anything we disagree with. We might think this person is not doing enough to help herself or that person’s need is frivolous or distrust the circumstances or even doubt there is a real need. That’s fine. Skepticism is a healthy quality to have.
However, there is no Selective Service Administration drafting designers and ordering them to produce for this tour. Shoppers are not herded into venues to spend money against their will. Moreover, if you are a shopper and buy a pair of shoes for 250L at a fundraiser, you get a pair of shoes that would cost 250L or more at the store since designers often discount for fundraisers. You’re not donating, you’re shopping. You might spend a little more because you think it’s for a good cause, but you get a fair return for your money.You lose nothing. The only people who risk are the creators and if they have made the decision to contribute, that’s their prerogative.
There are a couple of fundraisers right now to help individuals with urgent family needs. The hair, dress, shoes, mani/pedi and necklace in today’s outfit come from one of those events, <3Ulaa. <3Ulaa is raising funds to help Ulaa Coronet to take her son to meet his grandmother for the first and final time. His grandmother is dying of cancer. For me, this is a compelling need and one that I think is worthy of my time and my lindens – and that’s my prerogative. If you don’t agree, don’t shop there. You will miss out on all sorts of adorability, but that’s your prerogative
I am agitated about this because there has been far too much judgment and ill will associated with these events – every one of them. When I organized Love Donna Flora, I had the painful obligation of asking Squinternet to send me her medical reports to upload to the web site because I knew some ghouls would allege she was faking her cancer – and sure enough, that happened. Thankfully, Squinternet understood the need and made it easy for me, but damn, I hated to ask her.
In this particular circumstance, some people seem to think Ulaa and her son should hop the rails, camp out in a ravine, and boil ramen over a campfire instead of flying and staying at a hotel. Personally, I hope enough funds are raised so that Ulaa can not only take her son to visit and get to know his grandmother, but that the three of them can go to Disneyland and on other outings and have the time of their lives – days filled with fun and laughter that will warm their hearts when Ulaa’s mother dies and they have only memories to keep them warm.
People have made a decision to help her visit her mother and introduce her son to his grandmother before she passes. That’s their prerogative. I have chosen to shop there and blog some of the items and that’s my prerogative. Now, it’s your right to disagree. But if you disagree, why make secrets and gossip and complain? It’s no skin off your nose. No one is making you shop there. So really, you’re just being an ass. And, or course, that’s your prerogative
Everybody’s talking all this stuff about me
Why don’t they just let me live?
I don’t need permission, make my own decisions
That’s my prerogative…
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|Nimil||as usual, very well said.|
|Ketsy||well stated as always, your Lindens, your choice... end of story.|
|NotTrubble||awesome post. really well put. not sure if its my drama filter but I haven't heard any gossip or drama. In fact the whole event has awed me with the kindness of strangers. Thanks for blogging it xxx|
|Natalie||Well said! Bloody love you for saying it too xxx|