Oh no she didn’t! She did. Alice Chenaux now tells us to blog whatever we want to blog about. Well, that is what I was doing before the BBBC. (grin) Okay, so I decided to check out Hamlet’s suggestions, especially one that struck me as fatally flawed from the outset. He suggested the following question for Tuesday; “The Second Life fashion scene is infamous for negative interpersonal drama. Do you think it’s possible to make it less so, and if so, how?” I know, I know, we don’t do drama on our blog, but I think it’s possible to discuss what I think about SL Fashion drama without creating a new drama. We will find out soon enough if it is. Pardon my while I grab my umbrella and scurry under cover.
OK, so fashion drama. Yes, it exists. We read it on blogs, in plurk, in group chats and we all know it’s there. Some of us join in from time to time and lots of us tsk, tsk from the sidelines while we are secretly entertained. Others make posts asking people to stop the drama and say “can’t we just all get along.”
Well, the short answer is No, We Can’t. We are people and all of us have spots of sandpaper on our souls that will just rub some people raw. I think of the example of rosemary. For many people it’s a tastly, fragrant and delicious herb. But for a sizable minority of the population it tastes like highly concentrated dishsoap and rosemary chicken tastes like getting punished by your mother for foul language. We are just not all going to perceive and receive each other the same way and some of us will just naturally irritate each other because we are all gloriously human with flaws that make us itch. So recognize that and don’t expect to love everyone or even like everyone or expect them to love or like you and your life will be happier.
However, the main point I want to make is that I disagree with the central implication of Hamlet’s question. I do not think that the fashion community has more drama than other communities in Second Life. I spent three days shooting photos at a surfing competetion a few years ago. The Drama!!! I worked cleaning prim trash and hosting costume parties at a dance club. The Drama!!! Have you ever dived into Flickr? The Drama!!! Have you read the JIRA’s about SL and coding and bugs? The Drama!!! If you look at the creation story in Genesis, with two people they managed to stir up Drama. It’s the human condition, not the fashion condition, that lends itself to drama.
So, I have to ask. What other communities in Second Life devote so much time and attention to raising funds to support cancer research, the victims of natural disasters, to advocating against genocide and cruelty to animals. The fashion community is generous and activist. Currently there is the NoH8 campaign happening and the Hair Expo raising funds for hair for children with cancer. The community works together on collaborative ventures to support the Rezzable sims and create themed clothing. Recently the Designer Challenge was created to push each other in new directions and challenge each other to build their skills. I don’t know all the communities in Second Life, but I wonder if there is any community so public-spirited and collaborative? I think the main reason that the fashion community is wrongly judged to be drama-ridden is that more than any other community it has a very public media – with magazines and blogs that introduce the drama outside the community and share it more widely – but it’s no worse and no more prevalent than any other subculture of Second Life.
No promotional items in this outfit.
- Poses: Reel Expression
- Skin: LF Chai Galactica
- Eyes: Poetic Color Night Forest
- Lashes: Lelutka Diva Prim Lashes
- Hair: Yukinowaguma Pincushion
- Jacket: Milk Motion My belted Jacket
- Pants: Fashionably Dead Shiny Shiny Magic Pants
- Shoes: Stiletto Moody Tall Boot